About 20 years ago, I went through a relationship breakdown which opened my heart much more than I expected. The experience threw me into feeling emotional pain which I thought I was immune to or had always protected myself from being exposed to. At the same time I was made redundant. I knew my career choice at the time offered me some satisfaction but knew that it wasn’t completely me. I decided to retrain and became an NLP practitioner and shortly after that I began an MA in Existential Psychotherapy.
However, I was broke and didn’t have the means to complete my course, but I knew that working with people in a deeply connected, meaningful and exploratory way was what I wanted to do. Intuitively I knew I would be revisiting my career to be aligned to this in my mid-forties.
15 years later (mid-forties…) and I took a self-engineered redundancy from my role as the European Chief Financial Officer (CFO) of Sony Pictures Television networks business. I had also built a successful London property business.
I also experienced an incredible amount of emotional or psychic pain all in the space of 6 months: the ending of a marriage, being uprooted from my home and kids, the death of my father, the ending of a career and closing that career by starting a new career as a Coach. With all of the emotional and mental processing that I was going through I knew that deciding to start from scratch as a Coach meant that I had to be fully committed to that career – I didn’t need any more pressure than I had already.
Leaving all that I had done behind me to start anew took courage whilst in the middle of huge change, but I felt there was synchronicity in the all the events that had happened and that I was being guided or supported in doing what is true to me. It’s almost as if my Coaching career had to be borne out of the emotionally hardest time of my life, and I’m grateful now for that period.
We must let go of the life we have planned, so as to accept the one that is waiting for us
My style of coaching has been influenced by my experience of working as a senior executive in the world’s largest media companies and through building a business, but most importantly it has been steered by the most valuable awakenings that I have experienced from personal life events.
I am now deeply motivated to facilitate positive change in clients and help them uncover the unshakable strength that comes only from within. I have seen this from a personal perspective and from those that I have worked with how the most amazing personal growth phases in life occur during what initially are painful or crisis situations.
In general, we are conditioned into running away from the unknown, from change and from challenges in life, but it is actually these very things that is what life is about. They can be (and I think are sent to us to be), life affirming, enhancing and profoundly satisfying events. It is through welcoming and living in the unknown that can give us courage and confidence and much more inner peace than before, even though it may not feel like it at the time!
Things may happen around you, and things may happen to you, but the only things that really count are the things that happen in you